Oct 21, 2024
Every year around my birthday I’m like, ok, what’s the secret
unlock at this age? Like what have I learned and what I am
doing that makes the biggest difference in my life?
This year, that skill that I’ve unlocked in myself this ability to
turn what feels like the worst thing, into the best thing.
In a very practical and realistic way.
So aside from anything really really sad in life, this strategy
allows you to get out of thinking and saying how much this sucks or
is unfair or is the worst thing that could happen. And
flipping it to- how could this become the best thing?
I’m going to fully explain it because once you set yourself up like
this - it’s crazy how you can see the same situations completely
differently.
It’s saying to yourself, this sucks, and it’s not at all what I
wanted. But, how could it actually be the best thing?
You have to listen to this full episode - it’s 20 minutes or so
that will change the way you react when things go sideways.
Things that are awful - like getting fired or someone breaking up
with you or you don’t get the promotion or don’t get into the
college or high school that you wanted. You sprain your ankle
and can’t workout for 3 months and it’s your favorite thing..
This is what we know for sure…
Bad things happen.
People dont know how to cope.
And they allow one bad thing to snowball into more.
THIS IS THE UNLOCK!
Bad things suck.
The only thing worse is letting one bad thing ruin many good
things.
One bad thing happens and the way you operate afterwards is what
more bad things happen.
Because really… things aren’t good or bad- they just are.
It's becoming anti fragile as we go.
People often dont know how to cope with bad stuff.
Thats how you end up with this weird spiral with more bad things
happening.
People dont know how to manage their emotions so they just
react.
The more I try to create space between how I feel and what I do,
the more I've been able to control my outcomes in situations.
It’s a superpower, I’m telling you. The next time something
in your life sucks, ask yourself, how can this actually be the best
thing ever?