Feb 5, 2024
I don't know what’s going on lately but I feel like I’ve been in
several situations where someone is coming at me and I’ve had some
friends who have had to deal with some pretty wild situations so I
thought, yup, this needs to be a podcast episode.
Let’s define some terms.
By coming at you I mean - verbally trying to start something.
It’s different than an argument because it’s like someone having a
problem with you or just straight up casting judgment on
you.
Our instant reaction is to respond and defend ourselves or get hot
with them back… but here’s the thing, most of the time, it’s just
not worth it.
So I think before we do anything we should ask ourselves, what
would I gain from engaging?
We often respond out of emotion, but because we know our priority
is protecting our happy headspace and our emotional energy, I think
we need to approach it differently.
We are going through some awesome strategies today so the next time
someone comes at you, you’re ready to handle it strategically
rather than emotionally.
When this happens, here are your options…
1. IGNORE
Literally say nothing. Don't reply to the email or text or DM
or walk away if in person.
2. AGREE - it ends it!!
When you don't want to engage or if there is truth to what they are
saying.
When we are insulted, pay attention to it.
If there is something that is true to it - then agree. And
move on.
3. HASH IT OUT - onlyyyyyy if it’s really worth it!
Only if it’s someone in your inner circle that you love.
90% of the time, it’s not worth it.
Alex Hormozi says
"The only insults that hurt are the ones we believe.”
I tell myself…
I don’t negotiate with terrorists.
When you get REALLY good at this… it becomes so powerful because it
doesn’t affect you for more than a few minutes.
It’s almost additive because it feels so good to be able to control
your emotions and you always win in the situation.
You can’t negotiate with crazy so don’t try- there’s no
point!
It’s awesome and it saves you so much unnecessary
headaches!!
Remember this the next time someone comes at you, take a minute and
decide how you want to really handle it.
Have an awesome day!!