Oct 13, 2023
Have you ever had a disagreement or gotten into an argument with
someone and it was stressing and you thought about it for a while
after but then, in hindsight, you realize the whole thing was
really unnecessary and could have been avoided.
This is the ultimate pick your battles conversation. But it’s
more than that.
Even if someone insults you or pushes your buttons, if there’s no
real benefit that can come from hashing it out we’re just not going
to engage
And the way we are going to do it is by reminding ourselves, that
we hold ourselves to a higher standard than that person.
Often times we feel like we have to prove our point or defend
ourselves but if it’s not someone that we love and their opinion
really matters to us, it’s a waste of bandwidth.
We’re not talking about being a people pleaser and just agreeing
with everything you’re told… we are talking about being a strategic
about your headspace, and resisting the urge to engage when there
is no real benefit in doing so.
We are going to define unnecessary conflict as an interaction that
you engage in that doesn’t really matter or align with your core
priorities.
It just doesn’t matter. It feels like a big deal because of
how it was presented- but is it really? Do you really
care?
You are going to hold yourself to a higher standard than them.
Even if it’s justified to respond in the way that they talked to
you, that’s not who YOU are. We aren’t going to let them -
walking around with low standards for themselves - affect how we
act.
The most important opinion is how we feel about ourselves when we
are by ourselves. So when you go to sleep at night, you have
those reflection thoughts of the day. What happened and how
did you handle it?
Examples:
-If someone puts a judgement on you that is clearly a reflection of
their own issues or jealously
-If someone gives you advice that you dont ask for and dont
want
-Road rage
-People at work poking into your stuff
-People you don’t know on social media leaving a comment or
judgment
-Tricky family members
-Political statements that push your buttons
-Parenting criticism
-It’s the ability to just say ok- and move on. Or smile and
walk away. Or say anything but argue or get it
going.
-Maintain your strong self but
-We just see this differently and I’m ok with that.
(And not in a rude way)
CHEERS to resisting the urge to get into disagreements that don’t
matter and protecting our headspace!
To learn more about Lindsay’s Awesome Mindset Course- email her
at Lindsay@HowToBeAwesomeAtEverything.com
Have an awesome day!